Whenever you find yourself in the position
of having to tell someone about your sissyhood, be honest, pleasant and
diplomatic, but you'd probably be smart not to deny it! Be understanding
of others' needs, including their ability to handle what you are telling
them, but let them know that you too have needs, including most of all,
acceptance and understanding.
It makes no difference if you are talking to your mother,
father, wife, girlfriend, doctor, minister, a relative or a friend. It
makes no difference weather you just find the need to tell someone about
your secret self or you have to explain yourself after your sissyhood had
been accidentally exposed.
Regardless of the circumstances, never apologize for
being what you are. Never be negative, despairing, whining, crying and
defensive. And don't say things in television psychobabble like "the
woman within" or use quasi-medical terms like "gender dysmorphic."
Even strive to avoid terms like transvestism, crossdresser and fetishism.
Terms like those may describe you, but they also make it easy for people
to put you in a cubbyhole and miss what you are really trying to tell them.
Simply explain to anyone who has to be told that you
have special needs. Describe what you need them to know, but don't try
to give them a mini course on transvestism, transsexualism etc. Keep it
simple, and don't tell them more than they need or want to know. Let them
ask you questions. Then you answer them as simply and as honestly as you
can.
Make it clear to them that you are straight, gay, bi
or whatever. I have found that in such situations, an individual's sexual
orientation is what is of most concern to most people. If they don't understand
but would like to, give them a book on the subject that explains it as
you'd like them to understand it. Or encourage them to get a book from
the library on the subject.
If, after a reasonable period of time, it becomes clear
that a person absolutely cannot accept your lifestyle, it's better to walk
away from them rather than to struggle with giving up your sissy needs.
For you to try to keep the relationship going by promising that you will
change, you'll be forcing yourself into a life of guilt and deceit because
the odds are that you will not change. Once you're a sissy, you're a sissy
for life. You can fight it, but you can't change it, and the sooner you
accept yourself, the sooner you'll be on your way to a happy life.